Intuition is not a gift reserved for a few elected (e) s. On the contrary,
this power just waiting to be developed and improved to enrich you and make your
life easier. But we must, for that, reconnect with yourself.
It is often said that women have a "sixth sense": an inner voice, which makes
them guess the intentions of a speaker who told them to darken or, conversely,
who warns them ... Nothing in this supernatural but must still accept, with ease,
to listen and to give confidence that it deserves.
Listen to your inner voice
Intuition is like memory: it gives us no information at all times that we do not
take really aware that they are immediately used or, alternatively, embedded in
a dark corner of our brain. The better you become aware of this work by
listening to your feelings, your intuition will be more reliable and efficient.
Your sixth sense is seldom wrong, it's your interpretation may be wrong, because
you refuse to feel driven. Your "instinct" commands you to beware of an
individual warm yet? It takes you to another that you had not noticed? Have
faith, let us guide you.
Find your intuitive state
It's a wait state that allows intuition to speak freely. Relax, breathe slowly
and deeply. Try to focus mentally, with an image that will help you create a
vacuum. If you have any emotions (anger, fear, sorrow ...), or that you create
in the minds of obligations ("I must ..."), you are more intuitive state.
Decrypt the "messages"
We speak several times on the same day a person or place? One word keeps coming
up (in your reading, a movie) around you? Try to decipher its meaning. Gradually,
you notice around you, coincidences multiply, you will notice and try to see a "sign".
However, do not expect clear message or easy answer: intuition is not clear and
limpid, organized into sentences or film. Rather, it is expressed through
metaphors, images or symbols. As a coded message, piecemeal, you will have to
translate it, give it meaning. Understand that the validity of your
interpretation that will make your intuitive information "true" or "false".
Create your database
Listen to your intuition is like learning to speak a foreign language, but each
symbol (the sea, a woman in white, flower, green ...) can have different
meanings depending on the person and context. So you have to create your own
"intuitive dictionary." In a small notebook, write down all of your insights on:
what questions you ask yourself, and what did you see occur, what are the
symbols that recur systematically? Gradually, your dictionary will grow and help
you see clearly in you.
Learn to say ... not too!
Contrary to popular belief, those who are more comfortable in their personal
and professional life are not those who have an IQ above average. It is those
who live in harmony with other relational, who can assert themselves. Or "hedgehog"
or "mat," they know how to get what they care about their environment without
crushing or handling. So how to develop this assertion?
As shown by Henri Laborit, man has remained true to her for many instinctive
behaviors. Faced with the difficulties encountered to live with his fellows,
what comes most naturally, it is either to flee (to submit, accept the
unacceptable, complaining, close in on itself ...) or d to attack (exercise
anger, contempt, insult, strike ...).
Flight or aggression?
However, the escape behavior, passivity and dedication are not without forced
deep physical ailments (somatization) and up to the psychological depression. As
for aggressive behavior, they undermine the relationship with others, causing
distrust, fear, closure and rejection.
In the way we work the most primary (where the intelligence and reasoning are
"off"), we are no different from animals. We are not far removed either from the
small child to get what he wants, knows, in the first place, as tears or anger.
And what will this child if her tears and anger are not sufficiently taken into
account, if they feel too satisfied in their needs and desires? It will seek to
get what he wants in a more roundabout: the cunning and / or seduction. It
appears another way to live one's relationship to another, handling.
Promise and perils of handling
She moved through the seduction of the lie or by those (in all its forms), the
promise that carries the manipulation is being able to capture what we want
without having to ask; without having to take the risk of a refusal, the risk of
losing his power, his control over others.
Taken to its extreme, and in its most pathological side, we find here the
"perversion", but less harmful, however, shows the manipulation of a breach of
the other. Whether curry favor with someone or a meeting, or to obtain a service
or any benefit, what is important is to swallow the bitter pill, despite the
aspirations, needs or desires of the other, in spite of what it is.
This approach certainly has advantages in the short term is probably the reason
why it is so common, that he who has never tasted cast the first stone! In the
long term, against the manipulator is likely to achieve the same results as
those aggressive, with in addition, the extreme tension aroused by the fear of
dirty tricks, the backlash and having to maintain all costs, a strong position
and an image of itself that does not comply with what it really is.
Beyond our instinctive reactions and our educational packages, but we have the
means to behave more beneficial to ourselves and others.
The benefits of assertiveness
Be yourself face to circumstances and sometimes very irritating behavior around
him, needs to use a number of specifically human faculties: the consciousness,
thinking and the ability to contain and express what you feel, the Empathy ...
Assertiveness also demands to be able to build on strong confidence in
themselves, others and life. Self-confidence, it's not pretending to be a
superman. On the contrary, accept what's wrong with us, without thinking that it
prevents us worth something, to be loved, what they began to succeed or be
happy. Once there is agreement of trust, we can give, as our relationship with
others is the mirror of our relationship with ourselves.
A good leader, for example, is one who has enough confidence in him to show
himself as he is, including, if necessary, in its gaps. It is also one who will
testify by his attitude of confidence he has in his team and the show
individually and collectively.
Develop your emotional intelligence
What will be the results? The same as in any group, any family whose members
have a real emotional intelligence, ie those with the ability to be consistent
with themselves and the will to live in harmony with others, despite
disagreements that inevitably appear in all human activity. We will then find
further support, the desire to move forward together, less distrust and cheating,
more energy, more relaxation and well-being for everyone ...
Stay true to yourself, assert themselves in what is under all circumstances may
seem a bit ambitious challenge. The fact remains that the attitude is the most
beneficial thing we can do to ensure the success of our romantic relationships
or friendships, to mobilize others to influence them, put them at ease and feel
comfortable in his life.
Just to be convinced to remember the times we knew what we wanted to ask clearly,
honestly negotiate a contract, say no firmly but calmly, resolving conflict,
managing anger or disappointment ... we feels both lighter and stronger, full of
energy, strengthened confidence one has in oneself, in others and life. And if
it's the happiness?
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